Very often, excess weight says not of serious health problems, but problems in relationship, or too many obstacles in life. They become the cause of night raids on the fridge and eating sweet, fatty and smoked foods. Food becomes a “substitute” for love.

Extra weight and relationship with beloved

Reason number 1. Blocked need in love

If relationship with your beloved is complicated, and you keep silence and cry in a pillow, expecting a partner to read your thoughts and wishes, the cause of night «attacks» to the refrigerator is clear. It is much safer to steal up to the refrigerator, especially at night when no one sees, then gain courage and try changing something in the relationship.

Reason number 2. Blocked need for recognition

You can «push» your own desires aside, and just listen to a man, adapting to his wants and needs. Such willingness to sacrifice causes potential consequences: you will hardly hold back tears, «forget» about yourself - block need of attention, proximity, or throw in the other extreme: quarrels, hysterics, scandals, without constructive solutions - the result of these actions is very similar: we eat or drink our own insignificance.

Reason number 3. Sexual disharmony

Sex can be considered one of the causes of excessive weight. If sex means duty for you, then you’ll gain weight slowly, usually 2-3 kilograms every year, turning into a woman, not interesting to her husband. If, on the contrary, there is a need for sex, but it is not satisfied, then, again, you can lose weight. An excited man in this situation prefers dealing on his own, and a woman is likely to eat something tasty.

What to do

* 1 To get started, try to talk about your feelings - it is a safe option. Give them yourself. «I am angry». Realize, legalize them. This is harder than «stroking» yourself with a regular chocolate, but does not affects waist.

* 2 Start listening not only to your desires, but also senses. Do not keep silence, speak with your partner about his feelings.

* 3 Learn caring for each other in equal measure.

* 4 Remember that your thoughts cannot be read. Silence in relationship leads to feelings of resentment and anger.

* 5 Reconsider your attitude to sex - it should become a pleasure.

Bans and overweight

If we have too many taboos and fears in our life, if we constantly monitor ourselves because of fear of rejection, food becomes a means to forget about discipline, control and commitment. What we can do in life just like that? Eat.

When a person wants to be perfect, trying to meet high standards and requirements, food often becomes the only outlet.

* Exit is simple and complicated at the same time: Allow yourself being different from ideal

* Talk to your body, and promise to be more careful with it.

Three useful exercises

«List of pleasures» - Think and make a list of all that gives you pleasure, except food. Then apply this knowledge in practice.

«I’ll eat this in 7 minutes»

Once you understand you are going to the kitchen, start this exercise. Rather than opening the fridge, say yourself «I’ll eat this in 7 minutes».

«Breaking trigger»

Aware of the events that «trigger» and bring to culmination your painful relationship with food: PMS, lack of sleep, resentment, etc. Try to avoid or be distracted from them in the future. If it turns out that they are all in some way connected with your partner, write him a letter. Express what you think without censorship, do not be shy in terms. Do not rush to tear the text into small parts! Instead, imagine yourself at the partner’s place and try to answer the claim. This will help reducing tension and understanding the situation. And only then tear the paper.