Discussion of sexual relations between partners ceased being taboo in our society long ago. However, there are topics that still cause ambiguous attitude in people. Sex between spouses in middle age is one of them.
Where goes the desire?
In middle age it seems that time for ourselves finally has come, because children are grown and no longer require constant attention, work and everyday life are settled and require not so much time and effort. But why you increasingly feel nostalgia for past years and love, think about sex somehow idle- no mood, and health does not allow!
There are many reasons of fading sexual desire - from purely medical urogenital diseases, neurological disorders, permanent reception of some drugs, which often occurs in adulthood, to psychological discomfort. And if health problems are likely to be resolved with adequate treatment, a psychological aspect of non-sexual relationships in adulthood may not always be defined even by partners.
Causes of sexual desire extinction can include a natural process of hormone testosterone production reduction, which accompanies both male and female menopauses. Many representatives of the strong half of mankind have no idea of men’s climax, and also actively deny its existence. However, physiological menopause is still present in lives of both sexes and causes a gradual decrease in libido. If climax is a pathological condition, characterized by painful condition, it requires an appropriate diagnosis and adequate treatment.
How to return the former desire?
At the outset, with help of professionals such as physician, andrologist, gynecologist, urologist and sexual health specialist, you need to understand, what may influence sexual desire. Quite often, impotence and reduced libido are affected by acceptance of such medications as antidepressants, anti blood pressure, tranquilizers. Some medications affect decrease in sexual desire in women or lack of erection in men.
Another council to improve sexual desire and decrease negative impact of menopause - to have sex often. It is denial or abstinence from sex, that inhibits elaboration of sex hormones, what affects not only libido, but also general condition of the body.
Remember youth years!
In order to identify psychological reasons for lack of sexual relations in middle age, it is necessary above all to understand, why they occur. Of course, many years of living side by side give birth not only to a sense of unity and kinship, but also habit, daily routine. Over the years, people lose not only novelty of relationship, but also communication between spouses. And if you think that a usual partner cannot offer anything interesting to you, then it’s time to change, if not the situation, then at least his attitude to it. A good start for a new cycle of relationship is a tour around memorial places of your youth: an arbor, alley, where you met, a summer dance floor, where you were kissung during warm summer evenings.
No day without new experience!
To restore interesting communication and take a fresh look at a partner, you need not sitting at home watching television, but create a rich cultural program. This may be a visit to the theater, philharmonic, opera, walks in a favorite park, concerts of famous singers and humorists, a romantic dinner by candlelight, at last, hiking in nature or testimony. Each of these events will provide new topics for discussion, and thus enhance communication between spouses. It would be especially good, if intimate conversations take place in bed, because it can pass into something more serious!
Take the initiative!
It is not a secret that leading role in sexual relationships is most often given to men. However, if you firmly decided to revive sexual harmony in your relationship, then it’s time to take initiative in your own hands. And if in your consciousness a women’s role in sex is not associated with assertiveness and activity, the initiative may well be implemented with the help of tenderness and playfulness. Gentle touching, ambiguous views or an entirely new type of behavior will intrigue any man and help you achieving your goals.
A good physical form will also help to feel emancipation in sex, it is no secret that many women are simply ashamed of their body in middle age. Of course, no one canceled the laws of nature and time is still the most ruthless enemy of women, but care of their bodies and health helps feeling confident and beautiful. And it is confidence in her own beauty that helps a woman looking younger and more desirable.
A healthy diet, daily physical activity, mental training and regular sex will help you not only feeling younger, but also significantly reduce the risk of many diseases. In addition, sexual relations of spouses in middle age help them feeling a joy of life fuller, brighter and more interesting.