Bad habits … When we hear this phrase we immediately remember detrimental hobbies, such as smoking, chronic alcoholism, drug addiction, game addiction. A lot of books are written on this topic, so it does not make sense to repeat them. Our article will discuss harmful habits in behavior «on personal front».
I must say that many attitudes are formed in childhood. The plot is often found in classical literature and even more - in real life. They met. Began to meet (prepare for the wedding, live in civil marriage) … Some time later, he decides to end the relationship. She is left alone with nothing. He drinks (nervously smoking cigarettes, swallows heart drops). She is going through a deep psychological crisis. «There are so many good girls - beautiful, gentle, tender, caring. Why I always meet snakes?». «All guys are loosers!» - She cries, hugging a best friend’s shoulder, and thinks: «Well, I was such a fool».
Why is everything happening this way?
Here are typical mistakes that are likely to lead to relationship break-up.
1. Long fruitless courtship. Few of us who like a feeling of uncertainty. Moreover, for some people, a categoric «No» is much more preferable, than vague «maybe ever».
Many men are hunters, invaders, and here they are proposed not to conquer their passion, but humbly wait for their fate, as a suspect in pre-trial detention.
From the conversation of two lovers:
He (inhibiting irritation): - Well, and how much will it last?
She: - I do not know, maybe two months, probably …
He: - So, these two months you will not want to have sex? Is your health all right?
She (smiling embarrassedly): - Well, I would want.
He: - So, I will date you for two months, drive to the movies, theaters, bars, restaurants, concerts, give flowers, and you will sleep with someone else?
2. A habit of criticizing men mercilessly. This stupid habit is often rooted in poor or broken families. If a loving mother believes that «a man is an animal», repeating the phrase, as a mantra, it is likely that the daughter will also adhere to the same view and treat men like animals.
The principle: «No gingerbread - just sticks!» - will not bring good. Despite the fact that some women complain of domestic violence, many men are afraid of their wives. As you know, people do not like those whom they fear and are afraid of those whom they dislike.
3. A habit of uncontrolled waste of money. Spending all money on clothing (cosmetics, jewelry), not to be able to buy products later, is not very wise. «Is he a man or not? – A woman can object. – He should earn more». Such life principles require Donald Trump close to you.
There are, of course, categories of citizens who can allow themselves wasting money. For example, people who live by theft. Alternatively, people accustomed to live in someone else’s expense.
In ordinary families relations are spoilt even faster. Husband works in five places, is terribly tired, but all the same cannot cover all expenses. Why? Ask his wife, looking like a Christmas tree with all her jewelry. Capacities of human organism are large. But not unlimited.
4. Bed education. «While you do not (can not buy me) this and that - I will not sleep with you». Familiar phrase. A woman manipulates man, relying on his «basic instinct». Are you pleased when you are manipulated? No? He is likely, too. You can ask for something. There are things you may require. For example, to reduce consumption of alcohol in a single family, and not to smoke in the kitchen, but near a garbage chute. But this kind of blackmail - not the best method to achieve your goal. The ends justify the means? Well, well. With regular use of weaning from the bed as education, most likely you will get additional problems solving which would be more difficult.
5. Monomaniacal desire to change a man. The vast majority of marrying men are adults, it is useless to upbring them. So why should you become a nanny?
If you’re continually educating a man, then he is in a position of transition-age boy. By the way, for some reason he wants to do exactly what is prohibited. And, most importantly, this status will have a negative effect on your beloved, to the point that he can looking for a woman, whom he would not feel as a teenager with, but be a head of household.
Here are basic mistakes women make, and feel sorry later. I hope readers will learn from others’ mistakes, not to make their own.