The happiness you experience in life all comes down to the attitude you carry. We all know someone who is “pessimistic”. What is their life like? How do they view things that happen to them? Generally I would say their life is NOT happy. You are teaching your children how to live their own lives just by living your own! So make it a happy one!

Why not put the power to be happy back into your own hands by becoming personally responsible for it? You cannot control another person’s behaviour, but you can control your own. Here are just five tips that will help you to become a happier mum, enjoy motherhood and control how much happiness you experience in your life:

Become the observer and analyse what you say to yourself and the effect it has on your emotions. Often anger arises when we continue negative dialogues with ourselves which escalates into external outrage. Consider whether your expectations are realistic or whether you are stuck in the past and the way you used to be able to do things.

There is nothing positive that comes from wishing it were another way, or hating the way that it is. Become the observer to unenjoyable situations.

We often get stuck in our problems because we don’t take time to consider what we really want.
Put your attention on the solution and how you are going to move out of this unenjoyable situation, rather than staying stuck in the problem.

Find ways to overcome bad habits, handle past issues that often present themselves when becoming a mum, learn how you have become the person you are and consciously work towards being who you want to be.

Enjoy motherhood by putting the responsibility to enjoy life back into your hands and discover yourself from the inside out.

Being the mom of a young child (especially one under 3) is rich and rewarding, but also a real strain on your mood. The first step to being a happier mom, then, is to value what you do  — to feel that it’s important. The next step is to find ways to make it more enjoyable.