Family relations. Whether this question excites all married steams? How to keep mutual understanding through years, and make constructed family institute prospering on a strong base for a long time?

Certainly, family is not given as an appendix to a big and passionate love, it should be formed. And one needs to study it. No matter, what family spouses had, and what temperament they have. Dialogue between them now in a new family is important.

In our century of prompt speeds, we are terribly occupied and hasten eternally. TV fills our leisure, we began to communicate less with each other. Everyone is engaged in his own affairs and thoughts.

So people gather in the evening not to stay together, talk with each other, but in front of TV, to keep silent together. So estrangement rust starts corroding family relations. Household spoken language grows poor. And this inability to communicate with each other conducts to family destruction.

It is necessary to remember that dialogue lack conducts to alienation of spouses. Communicating, they start understanding each other gradually better and better. Basic elements of culture of dialogue are: empathy, tolerance, compliance, goodwill. And themes of conversations are not so important, but it is important to hear a person and to be heard.

The culture of dialogue of husband and wife essentially influences frequency of disagreements and misunderstanding in a family. Inability of spouses to behave in problem situations structurally is one of principal causes of strained relations.

The basic quality in dialogue is ability to recognise value of another, even at discrepancy of positions. Try to understand and accept what your loved person says to you. Maybe it is very important for him now.

Psychologists assert that disputed relations in a family are usually a consequence of elementary egoism of spouses, their unwillingness to think of the beloved. They expose their own interests and whims on the foreground.

Absence of mutual understanding in a family leads to depression, estrangement, deterioration of psychological and physical condition, considerable fall of working capacity of a person. And as consequence deterioration of mutual relations, distance from a partner. And this leads to family destruction.

And these conflicts also lead to neuropsychic disorders, here spouses cannot already restrain, are rude or cry. And, having told a set of different impartial words, are compelled to follow the told. But after all it has been said in anger, and not elaborately. Here they are compelled to commit inadequate acts, which they feel sorry later.

And after all, it was necessary to listen to a problem of the loved one in the beginning – and then it would be not necessary to pay off with nerves, health, deterioration of state of health, mood and emotional background in a family.

Do not be an egoist – and you will see how your life becomes easier!