Ah, darling married men. This topic is so cliched. But, nevertheless, do many of women, who got involved with married men, listen and observe advices, offered to them in various articles and magazines? No. Most women prefer learning by their own mistakes. “He dumped her, but he won’t dump me”, this is the way they are reasoning, and yet: “not all people are the same”, ”he’s good”, “he cannot cheat on me” or just “I love him and that’s all!”. No, this is not all. You don’t love him, but wasting your youth, time, health, and, finally, your feelings, and your freedom. You shouldn’t! Women, who became mistresses of married men, most often, dissapointed in life and love, hopeless to find their only one, honest, darling, loving and careful man, who will never cheat and betray. Isn’t it a dream of all women? And instead of trusting, enjoying life, searching and struggling, she plunges into this maelstrom. May be HE is cheating, but not me, he’s cheating on his wife. HE seems to love me, otherwise why does he spend time with me? HE is careful, tender and loving. Of course, what else should he do? You know, you’re his favorite toy, no, you’re rather a hobby, like, for example, fishing, sauna, friends, beer. HE takes a rest from his family matters with you. And then he returns home, kisses his darling wife and a daughter, son, if he has them, tenderly. HE makes himself comfortable in front of TV, eats his tasty supper, HE enjoys life, having forgotten about you completely. And you are at the same time heatedly happy, as HE presented you so much “love”, and sad, as he’s not with you already. But you hope now HE feels the same, as you do, this way trying to calm yourself down. This repeats every time and this syndrome is called loneliness. You’re lonely, but HE is not. Quite the contrary, HE is happy. It flatters his self-esteem, that you’re loving and waiting for him, and that his wife is also loving and waiting him. And HE won’t break up with her because of you, HE can do it only for his sake, there can be many reasons. Then HE will come to you and, probably, even marry you, what is next to impossible. And will cheat on you. Well, why not, you know, hobby is hobby and he shouldn’t deprive himself of it. What a man HE is, if there’re no fishing, beer with friends and no mistress. That will never happen. You know, HE is a man!And now, ask yourself: do you need this? Are there no other men? And don’t say yourself about big love. And that it suits you, and you’re not going to marry, you don’t need unwanted troubles etc. etc. Stop! Deep in your soul you know that this is not true. And don’t convince yourself of the opposite. And truth is in the fact that you’re afraid. You’re afraid of staying alone again, left with nothing. But you’re alone now too. And HE is not your man and never was and will be yours. Don’t be afraid! I can say you for sure, that if a married man swallowed you, then a singe one will not just swallow, but will just be crazy about you. Because married men don’t need second chop, they need the best to satisfy their ambition, their own significancy. So be brave! Break up with him, don’t feel sorry for him, as he doesn’t feel sorry for you!
Search for that only one, honest, sweet, loving, careful, who will never cheat or betray, but a SINGLE one. And then he will be only yours. And you will never feel this feeling of simultaneous excitement and sadness, which became loathsome long ago. You will become happy, the main thing here is to make up your mind! So, good luck to you, dear women, and down with the married love!
13 Responses for "Break up with a married man!"
How do you exactly break up? I have a relationship with a married narscissis who lies and manipulates. I haven’t been able to break it off with him because I feel sorry for him and I can’t do it face to face. My instincts tell me he’s going to mess with my mind and emotions and get another hook in me. It’s like going and having a goodby talk with a poisoness snake.
Please help me join this forum. I need help from someone that does not know me personally.
I am in the same boat. I call him a master manipulator. I think im afraid because of the financial security he brings me. Yes he is going to pull out all stops to keep you. I am trying to break up too. I didn’t answer his calls two days in a row and he shows up at my door. Stupid me opened the door. I couldn’t just leave him outside. I need a 12 step program or a support group. Good luck
I didn’t break up with my married man. He dumped me out of nowhere after two years. One day everything was wonderful and the next he didn’t want me anymore. This article is so true. I thought all of those things…that I didn’t want the problems of a “real” relationship. I got them anyway because I fell in love deeply and now I have nothing. I had the feelings of happiness and sadness at the same time because he made me feel so loved and yet so lonely. I knew from the beginning he would never leave his wife for me. But I never thought things would end like this. He told me he needed me…I was his air…his sunshine. He still has his life and I have nothing but pain. If you’re in one of these relationships…get out. You are wasting valuable years that you could be with someone who wants you and only you. These relationships are a dead end. If you’re thinking about becoming involved with a married man…you should run…not walk…in the other direction.
I too have lived the pain and joy of being the mistress. It started as both of us cheating on our marriages. I however left my marriage, he stayed in his. His wife learned of our \”relationship\” many times yet stood beside him not ever considering giving him up. He always ran back to her to make sure she was alright and that his family was in tact, but within a day or two he was back with me. I finally understand that he never really loved me, that the \”amazing connection\” we had was a lie, and I truly feel sorry for his wife. Because, as I have ended this relationship, she is still stuck with a man who will continue to cheat on her, because he can.
i dont know what to say..i am also on this boat..and im afraid..this is my first time..after my husband died hes my classmates high school days and he told me he likes me even before..and when i am in trouble and alone..hes there to help me..hes so kind and caring..we are so closed until our feelings developed..and then hes wife knew ..she is angry with me cos she is my freind..i know im a traitor..im so sorry for myself..but i alos love him..he does love me too..i dont want him to leave his wife ..for me..dont want that to happen…how can i handle my situation when i miss him….help me…
Wow! what is going on in this world for all the women to act in such a foolish way. I only reason I can think of is that there is a shortage of men to go around, because of the war!
I have been with a man for a year now who has left his wife and moved out and lives with his mother but still has not started divorce proceedings, still paying his way in the marital home and offering me carrots all the time - holidays, presents,etc. I really think it’s time to say goodbye - after the NEXT holiday - but how do I do it???Help!!!
i have been a lesbian for 30 years now, but i think it’s time for a change. please, anyone?
If you need a change message back….
I know exactly how these women feel. I did manage to break-up with my married lover. It was the hardest thing I ever did, after more than 15 years I find myself with tears rolling down my cheeks when I think of him and the pain his lies caused me. I have moved on, married, but still love the snake that cheated on me along with his wife. Not sure why.
I have been involved w/a married man for last 6 years. I have loved him w/every ounce of my being. But many broken promises of when he would leave and be with me finally brought me to a place where I was “done”. I reconnected with my “first love” frm high school and have found the kind of man I want to spend my life with. But now that I have pulled back frm the other relationship, the married one “can’t live without me” and is planning to leave his wife and “live happily ever after” with me. This is tearing me apart. This is wat I longed for for so long and now I am broken in to a million pieces. I love the married one and always always will be I feel I need to move on and start living my life without him. How do I do this? Please help…
I am involved too with a married man. Its been 2years now and I love him so much but i think he is playing around with me…. please help
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